Evolution not Change

The whole world, your life, my life, plant life, is evolving. It is constant evolution, and I choose that term instead of the word "change." We "change" our clothes, or our hair, but our lives "evolve."
Im sure you can name numerous subjects you are battling or working through right now. You may have the economic pinch, a home repair issue, a job thats taking you no where, bad relationships with family or friends, or CHILDREN.
Recently I've become a mother figure. I gained a wonderful teenager that I watched turn into an adult. I worry every day I didn't do my job well enough, teach her enough, help her enough, guide her enough, pray for her enough. Turning back the clock and having a re-do is not an option now. So I am having to watch her evolve into an adult. I see the child she still is and I see the adult trying to emerge. I see life altering matters, that I have no control over. I have to relinquish the urges to help too much, because who at 18 wants help from someone older than them?
The child who turned into an adult is evolving in ways that we all go through. Then I look at myself and realize I am constantly evolving. Aren't we all? I have to adjust to not having a child to parent, because when I became a full time parent I dove in, took it very seriously, while trying to be fun. I gave it my all, my heart and soul and now after two short years, I have to stop. I have an empty room in my house and I will have to rely on myself for girl items. No more yelling for help when I need green eyeshadow, or help with my bra.
I am also a bonafide step-mom. I have two WONDERFUL stepkids, one who is still a teenage girl and 16. I wish I was with her more and could help her more but she is far away. I love her like she is my own, but feel so far from her. My stepson is 21 and off at War, in Iraq. I mother them, but from a distance because ALL THREE of my kids still have mothers. Great mothers. I am the stepmom, the one who hopefully is young and fun, and they can tell anything to. I had to evolve after I spent a year with my stepson constantly leaving the army base and coming to our home.... and his sister and mom visiting.
I've had a house full of people for two years now, and loved MOST every minute, now its empty and time to evolve.

I made the decision to take this empty nest time to find the new me. To still be there for all of my kids, plus the extra kids who are family or friends and I call my "extra kids." I am a text message away, because who talks on the phone anymore? HAHA! Im choosing to recharge, refresh, meditate, read, write, and evolve, in my ever changing life.

How is your life evolving? What can you do to make your life happy and positive? There is no point whatsoever to live in misery. Sometimes we feel stuck, but there is ALWAYS a way out and way to evolve. I choose to let go of any growing pains and create new-ness. We can all do that with strength and faith. Choose to see what is evolving and choose to evolve with the ebb and flow.



DEFINITIONS:

Evolve-

A gradual process in which something changes into a different and usually more complex or better form.

The process of developing.

Gradual development.

Development, as in social or economic structure or institutions.
























A gradual process in which something changes into a different and usually more complex or better form.
The process of developing.
b. Gradual development.

development, as in social or economic structure or institutions.